Why do Borderlines and Narcissists Attract? [Ep: 818]

There are real reasons why people with borderline personality disorder, signs and symptoms connect with people who are narcissistic and have narcissistic signs and symptoms. The attraction is very deep-seated and somewhat primal. Primal in the sense that the relationship is fast and furious, the borderline getting wrapped up in the narcissist’s persona. The narcissist feeds the borderline what they want and then the love bombing and constant attention stops and then the intermittent reinforcement begins. If you have ever dated someone with borderline personality disorder and one day they dump you by text, they have found a narcissist that they are enamored by. For many people who have codependent tendencies, if you were in a relationship with someone with borderline tendencies and one day they go silent, there is someone else in their life. A narcissist is very skilled at getting the attention of a borderline, pulling them in, and then playing them to get the borderline to basically beg to keep them. Listen to this podcast to learn why this connection initially looks like it works but how it is a ticking time bomb. These two are the perfect puzzle piece for the most painful relationships.